Ways to kill a marriage, 5 ways you’re destroying your marriage!
It can be a little shocking and very sad to see two people who were deliriously happy together file for divorce. Sadly, this happens all too often, leaving most people wondering what went wrong.
But divorce doesn’t happen for no reason. Often, several events will precede a marital breakdown, events that usually could have been avoided with just a bit of foresight, and the willingness to make things work.
Marriages require teamwork and with the right assistance, spouses can move beyond petty grievances. However, if one party isn’t as willing as the other, or if neither party is willing. The marriage begins to spiral out of control at an alarming pace.
5 Ways To Kill A Marriage
Dishonesty is without a doubt the number 1 way to kill a marriage. While there are different forms of dishonesty, it essentially amounts to the same thing – being unable to trust your partner with the truth. Dishonesty can be about finances, about your feelings, or just general dishonesty.
It creates holes in a marriage when one party is constantly lying about everything. It makes it difficult for the other party to trust their spouse and they start questioning everything. Dishonesty about how you feel will pile up and fester until one day somebody cannot take it anymore.
#2: Disrespect and Devaluing
It usually starts as a little teasing, laughing, and making jokes at each other’s expense, especially in public. But more often than not, somebody crosses a line without realizing it then it becomes hurtful and embarrassing to the other party.
If by your actions or words, you constantly open your partner up to unwanted criticism, it will create cracks in your marriage.
#3: Immaturity and Pettiness
A relationship thrives on a healthy dose of compromise and selflessness. Mundane issues should not be cause for intense arguments. Both parties need to understand that they do not have to be right all the time.
If one or both partners store up the other party’s faults and wrongs like ammunition, it becomes a recipe for disaster.
#4: Turning your attention away from your spouse
It can be easy to get lost in your work for a few hours. But if you are constantly putting work or kids above your spouse, it gives the message that you are not interested in them.
In marriage, both parties should strive to consciously and consistently put each other first. If one party feels neglected and unloved, they may try to seek this validation elsewhere and that does not bode well.
#5: Lack of proper communication
This is a major reason for failed marriages. Couples should always talk to each other, not at each other. Always clarify and seek clarifications because assumptions are often false and bring about unnecessary heartaches.
You can’t always judge your partner’s actions through the haze of what you are feeling. Your partner cannot read your mind and neither can you read theirs. If they don’t know that something is wrong, how can they go about fixing it? The solution is to talk about it.
Although there are more ways to kill a marriage, these are 5 of the major reasons marriages die. Being aware of these 5 simple things can go a long way in your marriage surviving.
The strange thing is, how easy these 5 things truly are to do. If you want your marriage to last, doing these 5 things can keep you from killing your marriage.
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